Assalama alaikoum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh 🙂
Sorry for being a day late I try my best to share something each Friday for all of us to reflect and benefit insha Allah. It may be something you already know so insha Allah take it as a reminder 🙂
I was browsing through Kalamullah for a good lecture to listen and after much consideration (hey, it’s a tough decision to make since most lectures have interesting tittles!), I chose lecture by Sheikh Abdul Bary Yahya tittled “Istikharah – Divine Compass”. And why this lecture.. it will be made known at the end of this post insha Allah 🙂
A few lessons learnt from this lecture (I’m directly quoting from the Sheikh in case my summary does no do justice to his lecture)
- If there ever was a GPS system in your life, it would be Salaatul Istikharah. Because Saalatul istikharah is divine guidance from Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala
- If you put your trust in Allah Swt, and trust Him for guidance, if you are sincere in that aspect, then insha Allah you have a great tool. Imagine every decision that you make insha Allah will always be the best for you.
- How many decisions have we made in the past that we now regret? Just think about the decisions we have made, we actually have regretted doing or following. Now think, if we pray istikharah when we made those decisions, we will never regret because there will be divine guidance from Allah Swt and He will guide us to that is most appropriate and that which is best.
- Some scholars have mentioned that “A person will never regret if he prays Istikharah and he consults with the people”… You can ask for advice and pray Istikharah (or vice versa) and then insha Allah, you should just go for it.
- Majority of the scholars of the opinion that you don’t pray (istikharah) in the times where it is forbidden (i.e. after Asr or after Fajr prayers)
- How many times should you pray it? Some scholars have said just pray once. Pray and then make your decision according to what you think that is best for you in this life and Hereafter. Even if you make the wrong decision, Allah Swt will guide you to the right one. [Example given is that, if a brother wants to marry a girl and he prayed Istikharah and then proceeded with his decision. If the decision is bad for his Deen, something will happen that will take her away from him]
- Make your decision once you have put your trust in Allah swt. If you have not consulted with people yet, then consult with them. Maybe you might have made a decision to do such-and-such but after making it, the brother/sister changed your mind. That consultation is part of Istikharah.
- There are times we are not able to pray Istikharah. For women, she might be in her menses she can’t pray. If the decision can wait, then she waits till she prays Istikharah. If she has to make the decision immediately, and no time to decide, then just make a dua. Say Istikharah without the prayer.
- After making dua Istikharah, you must have the certainty or yaqeen that Allah Swt will guide you to which is best for you. That is part of eemaan.
- Another misconception about Istikarah is that you have to see a dream or pray three times or four times. And if you don’t see a dream, then don’t do it.
- Imam Nawawi mentioned that you pray Istikharah, be sincere and then pick a decision that would be best for you in this life and Hereafter. Sometimes, you will be inclined to making certain decisions and after praying Istikharah, you see the opposite.
- When we pray the Istikharah prayer, you need to have the intention before the prayer.
- Praying Istikharah also helps you in your eemaan and belief in Allah swt
Masha Allah, it is a very useful lecture indeed! I’ve had a lot of misconceptions about Salatul Istikharah cleared al-hamdulillah 🙂
The reason why I chose this lecture is because I have that strong inclination to start wearing niqaab now. I have been delaying this for almost two years actually. Ever since I became convinced that the niqaab being a Sunnah and tried on for the first time two Ramadhans ago, I thought of taking the plunge and just start wearing for good. [At the moment, I wear it on-off but do not like the idea of doing so.]
I kept deciding otherwise as it was possible that my parents would reject it. The opinion of some scholars is that if niqaab is a Sunnah for you, but your parents are against it, then it is fardh upon you to listen to your parents first then doing the Sunnah.
The Sheikh kept mentioning that we only have to pray Salatul Istikharah once, put your trust in Him and then make your decision. I can’t imagine actually wearing niqaab now and then parents saying no to it later.
I have actually spoken to them about this and I’m getting a 50/50 answer. My mom especially seems excited about it because well, she keeps telling people about me having niqaabs lol. She had even helped me pick up the niqaabs that I purchased online. My dad remain reticent about this. He said to me before, that niqaab is not necessary but later when he saw me in niqaab at Masjidil Haram, he smiled and said “Masha Allah” lol.
However, despite that, there is no clear cut yes or no from either of them. From personal experience, my parents could possibly change their mind if I were to face hardships in life. And the last thing that I want, is to then remove niqaab especially if I had been wearing it for awhile.
Maybe I’m worrying too much Like the Sheikh said, we should consult in the believers, and really.. here I am asking for your opinion insha Allah. I have asked my Sisters back in Sgp and they have always supported me in this al-hamdulillah…
JazakAllah Khayr 🙂